Just thought I'd update you all . . . with a bit of
, oh yeah, it's spelled wine.
A few other suggestions/ideas were thrown out in the past couple of months with nobody really coming together on one plan.
Beth talked to Favorite Cousin (FC) in St. Louis, in order to get ideas from the St. Louis clan. FC thought that doing something this summer would be way to early. Her comment made me laugh:
"You don't want to be wished a happy 80th
birthday when you're still young! I know MIL would say 'I'm only 79-1/2! I'm not OLD yet! Don't rush me!' " This makes perfect sense to me.
FC said that she would gladly host a party next summer and threw out the idea of making it a party honoring all the 70+ yr. olds in the family (There are 4 people in their late 70's early 80's.) I think this is a great idea.
A party during Christmas week was nixed for several reasons. The main reason being that Beth and her DH spends T'giving with Beth's family and Christmas with DH's family, so Beth wouldn't be able to attend at that time. (What? You won't host a party that you can't attend? What's wrong with you?
Beth sent out an e-mail a couple of days ago saying that she thought the best solution would be for the sibs/grandkids to take MIL out for dinner at an upscale restaurant on Saturday
after T'giving. She said that she wouldn't be able to foot the bill for everybody and hoped that we would be able to pay for our own families along with chipping in for MIL.
Beth extended the invitation to boyfriends/girlfriends of the grandchildren (oh, and my date if I wish to bring one.) She asked for restaurant/menu preferences (seafood, steak, Chinese, etc.) and, again, specified her wish for a classy, dress up type of venue.
She doesn't plan on inviting anybody but the immediate family. Just "us" equals 14 people. Add in BF/GF's it could go up to 19 people.
In closing Beth said "I'm hoping this works for everybody. I'm really looking forward to all of us getting together for a special party to celebrate Mom's 80th bday. P.S. If anybody has any budgetary constrictions, please let me know. I'll plan accordingly."
Bob responded quickly saying "Sounds like a great plan. I'll even be willing to splurge for the 95th floor.* Don't know if Son1 will be there, he's enlisting soon."
Haven't heard back from Bill yet.
I have no problem with all of the above (except bold
Now here's where we get out our glass of wine and quietly sip while sending me good-thought vibes.
I responded "This sounds great. Just wondering why you're thinking about Saturday instead of Friday? Or are we not doing the Friday-after thing?**"
Beth: Yes. We're definitely doing the Friday-after at Niece(her daughter's) new house. She's sooo looking forward to hosting the whole family. I'm not going to take that away from her. She's already planning the meal.
Me: Oh. That's right. I forgot about Niece's plans. We'll be there with bells on!
Take a sip of
So now there are 3 days of fancy feasting with huge quantities of delicious food. Don't get me wrong, I love these people, but can only tolerate them in small doses. Even DD#1 said "Wait. We have to see Aunt(Bill's wife) 3 days in a row?"
Another sip of wine.
All in all, do you think this sounds like a good plan for MIL's bday party?
Plus . . . please help me out of the "I really don't want to spend 3 days with these people" funk that I'm in.
Another sip of wine.
Thank you in advance for any advice/wisdom/help/strength you'll be willing to offer..
**Tradition is a 2-day feast. T'giving dinner is hosted at Beth's and Friday-after is traded off between hosting at my home or Bill's home. In the past, I've hosted Bob and his 2 sons for the weekend, but they usually leave for home on Saturday. I haven't heard yet if Bob and sons will be expecting to stay with me, nor have I extended an invitation. I probably should, shouldn't I?