Not sure if this should go in technology because it involves Facebook, but I'm putting it here because it involves real life situations with the commentary made.
I posted something on Facebook about a certain situation that I personally find upsetting. My cousin, who is also a minister, responded to my comment with a rather preachy reply asking me questions like "Do you have your health? A husband that loves you? A great job?" and went on to say that I should count my blessings. This has me annoyed because she is invalidating my feelings on the original issue.
It's like when someone is complaining about having the flu because they don't feel good, and someone turns around and says "Count your blessings! At least you don't have cancer!"
This kind of thing drives me nuts. I realize as a minister she is in the business of putting a positive spin on things, but for goodness' sake, I'm allowed to feel bad about something without having to worry about comparing myself to someone else who has it worse. I get it. Someone else will ALWAYS have it worse.
Etiquette comes in here: what do I say to her in response that is still polite, but also lets her know this comment isn't really OK with me?