(Meant to put this in the "Family" section. Mod, can you move it? Thanks.)
This happened several days ago; Ive put off posting because I just wanted to wait and see if something else happened. (Maybe Id get a call, email apology) but nothing has happened.
BACKGROUND: I have a male cousin J who is married to B. We grew up in the same small town, have drifted apart, but generally speaking have had a decent relationship even though communication is sporadic. J and I talked several times last summer because there was a death in the family. Since then, I havent heard from him. I met his wife B 20 yrs ago when they got married, but we arent close either. Ive picked up Snowflakey vibes way before I was familiar with the term. She is not exactly Ms. Personality; i.e., the times Ive been around her she sits, stares at people, and doesnt say anything unless someone says something to her or asks her something. Her answers are brief, and I can count on half of one hand the times Ive seen her smile. Her husband/my cousin J is the opposite always on, smiling, joking, very witty and personable. (end BG)
WHAT HAPPENED RECENTLY: A couple of months ago my cell phone showed a missed call from Js home number. There was no vm msg, so I just shrugged it off.
But the other night my cell ph rang and the caller ID showed the call was from my cousin Js home phone #. When I said hello cousins wife immediately sounded annoyed/angry and said Im calling because youve called this number several times and hung up, and I want to know why you keep doing that. I said Who IS this? She said this is the X residence and this is B, Js wife. I said Well, B, this is Js cousin (my name). I dont know what youre talking about. Please calm down. I have not dialed your number since last summer when J and I discussed the death of (relative). I dont make hang-up calls and no one uses this cell phone except me. She said Oh. Well, I wasnt being accusatory. I was just seeing if there was something I needed to follow up on.
I asked if her caller ID was indicating recent calls from my number. She said No, not recent. Its just that some people call and hang up if they dont get the person and I was just checking things out.
I said Well, it wasnt me. (awkward silence) Have a nice evening. Goodbye.
To me, it sounded like she was checking up on him and she had a pre-planned excuse for calling.
I was going to email my cousin J and tell him about his wifes strange phone call, but my better judgment told me to leave it alone. (I am SO glad I didnt email my cousin.) Anyway, as I got back to my dinner I swear I heard music from "The Twilight Zone" playing somewhere.
Also, I recall many years ago when cousin J attended a family gathering and stayed quite awhile . . .laughing, having a good time. Later I heard from another relative that B had been calling trying to get a phone number (where the gathering was held) to check to see if hed left yet.
Concerning the recent call, I found it odd that once she realized who she was talking to B didnt say Oh, (my name) gosh, Im sorry. My mistake. Dont worry about it; how ya doin? OTOH, we dont have a warm, chatty relationship and she now realizes she messed up. I doubt that she said anything to J about it, and shes hoping that I dont. But I feel she was rude/out of line.