I appreciate all the replies.
Btw folks, I wasnít just soliciting ďYes, oceanus, youíre rightĒ agreements. But I truly think she was rude and thatís she could have easily handled it better.
Yes, itís also possible she saw my number written down someplace Ė maybe an old piece of scratch paper, post-it, etc and was going thru a desk drawer, etc. However, Iím convinced she was on a fishing expedition.
Iíve seen landline phones with an indicator that shows all numbers that have been dialed and also all incoming numbers Ė unless the numbers are deleted.
Whoever said I donít like her is right Ė based on my experience (even before this incident) and also observation, she is not someone I would even want to sit and have a cup of coffee with.
Anyway, sounds to me like she keeps him on a short leash and I inadvertently got caught up in it. If I had told J about the call (and Iíve decided not to) I think wife would have given a very different version. And itís a potential ďhot potatoĒ that I donít want to touch.