I know several people have posted about how they find out about big news on facebook to do with family members and it bothers them. I decided I would share my story from the other end.
My husband applied for a promotion at his job. For what it's worth, I won't hide the type of job as I often find that makes things a bit confusing. This was an application for tenure at his university. Essentially, after working for 5 years you apply and if it is granted you have a job for life, if it is denied, you pack your bags and leave.
So getting tenure is a big, big deal, but my husband has done well and it was expected that he would succeed. The whole process actually takes a long time. So timelime (approximate as I have forgotten all the details)
September-submit application, application forwarded to external examiners
October-external examiner's reports come in with reccomendations
November-department committee reviews and submits to Chair of department
November-Chair submits reccomendation to faculty
December-Faculty commitee reviews and submits reccomendation to Dean
January-Dean reviews and submits reccomendation to Senate
Febuary-Senate reviews and submits reccomendation to President
Febuary-President approves and the appointment is set
Anyhow, there are a lot of stages, but once the department approval is in, there is a 90% chance at least of it making through the rest of the processes. So basically, we have known that he was going to get this (barring diasaster) for months. The more approvals, the less chance something odd would happen to stop it.
Yesterday, he got the email from the president with approval. It was a complete non-event to him. He thought it was email about another project, read it and ignored it to get back to work on important things. He came home and didn't even mention it until my parents asked in passing and then he said "Oh yeah, I got the final approval today".
So anyhow, I asked later if I could post it on facebook (he isn't on facebook, but we share a lot of friends who would like to know) and he frowned and re-read the email to make sure that this was the final FINAL final approval and then asked me to post it.
So I posted and lots of people said congrats and all was good, but then today I got calls from both his parents who (though they didn't say so) were a little upset and wanted to congratulate him in person on his BIG news.
It wasn't till they called that I realised that this was Big News! It had dribbled on for so long that while it was nice to get the official stamp, it wasn't really news anymore to us.