This past summer I told my friends and family that I was overwhelmed and that I would be updating everybody on the surgical status of my boys via Facebook. Anything else was simply more than I could handle. I created a group and proceeded as I had announced. Toward the end of the summer I had the following conversation with my sister:
Sister: M's ankle surgery was last week? Why did I not know?
Me: I posted it on Facebook.
Sister: I cannot be counted on to look at Facebook! I need you to call me!
Me: I have two kids in two different hospitals and a third one tagging along for the ride. If you want to keep up, you have to manage to work around what I can do, and what I can do is post regular updates on a central site. Anything else is asking too much.
I feel that when it comes to overwhelming health issues, the idea that the sick person should cater to everybody else is ridiculous. Everybody else needs to bend to what the ill person (or that person's caretaker) is able to do. If what you can do is update on facebook, then that's what you do. Now, I do understand that you might not want to announce to the entire world the ins and outs of your recovery, but that's what groups are for, and I see no reason why you shouldn't be able to take advantage of the available technology to make that aspect of your recovery easier.
And, I do hope you get your kidney soon, and that your recovery goes as well as possible!