None of the many homeschoolers I've known in my life had that problem to any obstructive extent. There were days where heads butted, of course, but that's normal teenage stuff.
If a kid is stubborn and willful, they'll be that way, no matter if school is public, private, or home.
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I do agree with you that a stubborn kid is a stubborn kid... sometimes, anyway.
But what I was trying to get across is that I have found that sometimes my own kids would not listen to me or my wife, when at the same stage in life they would
listen to another adult (a teacher or the parent of a friend) who is not their own parent. I've had several conversations with other parents at school events and the other parents have noticed that, too.
I recently had jobs where I was working with other people's middle school and high school aged teenagers. I found that with my own personal style of interacting with other people's teenagers, I was almost always able to get our job done with remarkably little fuss. I felt like sometimes it was easier to accomplish tasks with other people's kids than my own. Other people's kids didn't dig their heels in with me as much as my own sometimes did. And yet, at least with my oldest ones, there was no evidence that mine were digging their heels in at school the way they were at home.
And I can think of two neighbor boys, teenagers, who at different times came to my doorstep almost in tears about things that were bothering them, and both felt very free to ask my advice. So I'm thinking I'm not un-approachable to other people's kids...
I guess my question was if homeschooling parents had noticed their own kids having trouble taking them seriously as teachers - in cases where those same kids had no problem taking other adults (other than their own parents) seriously as teachers.