Agreed, LW is rude and wants lurid details. There are many reasons, other than killing people, the military folks don't want to talk about serious experiences. DH served 2 tours in Vietnam, one as infantry and one as a nurse. He ONLY tells funny stories. My oldest DS did search and rescue in New Orleans after Katrina, with the National Guard. He has a few funny stories, but there are still things he won't talk about.
Other issues are security. We have a friend who just retired from military intelligence and actively broke up spy rings. We will be chatting and he will start a story only to stop and say, sorry, can't say any more. Parts of that are still classified.
Exactly. I don't have any (living) family members in the service, but I do have a family member who assisted with intelligence kinds of things, and there are still things he can't tell anyone.
I have a friend who served in Iraq, and I only know a few things about his service. The things he has told me would belong in the Gross - Out thread, except when I asked about one of his tattoos. He told me it was one his whole unit of 14 guys got - it symbolized how death was the only sure thing in life. Out of 14 guys, only 3 came back, and they're all permanently disabled. With that story, with the added stuff I will not mention, it really hits home for me why people in the service don't talk about what they did.
The LW is being really impertinent and disrespectful of his BF, and I really think he needs the reality check that there really are things you don't tell other people - no, not even your significant other.