My mother mistook my number with her brother's, and called me. So I now know (by accident) that her mother is very ill, in the hospital. It could be nothing, but she was crying so I think this could be the end and she will ask me to go. To visit in hospital, to go to a funeral, I don't know yet, but I'm certain she will ask me to go home. In fact, when she realized of the mistake, she told me to hang the phone and that she would talk to me later. That was 3 minutes ago.
Background: I don't want to go at all. Not to hospital, nor to a funeral. I barely knew her mother, even though I was forced to visit her. Never had a conversation with her beyond hello and good bye, never shared anything even though I was there every sunday, and to top that, she is an unpleasant woman.
Problem is, my mother always forbade me to have a relationship with my paternal grandparents, threw away their presents to me so I wouldn't receive them, ridiculed those presents that my father got to gave me, and when I was big enough to go visit them alone, put a long face the whole day. They were very nice people, and I went to both funerals even though my mother tried to prevent it.
So now I know my mother will use that to guilt me into going. Thing that I'm not going to do. Problem is, I don't want to give her those reasons when she is distressed, so what do I say?
Sorry for the language, I usually write better, but I'm writing this in a hurry.