Exactly. This is what I was thinking. They may not have known every time they took the pictures originally that they would be used in a book, but once they knew they were making such a book, they should have made an effort to get a picture so that they could include it.
This makes my brian hurt in conjuction with the thread that suggested such behavior would be bullying! Either we are to respect someone's wishes who asks not to be photographed or not.
How is mentioning the album not respecting their wishes? She's still not insisting that the photo be taken.
LW: "I want to take a picture of you and baby."
SM: "No, I prefer you not".
LW: "Ok" Respecting wishes.
LW: 'click' - not respecting wishes
"Hey, I'm making the grandparents a photo album filled with pictures of them and the baby. Do you want to be included? I don't have any pictures of you..."
Considerate...not disrespectful. She can still say no.
Also, I want to add that I think that the SM shouldn't have made a big deal about this. Yes, I think that the LW should have said something to her before hand, but when she didn't, she should have just realized that this is her fault and let it go. It just doesn't change my opinion about the LW should have done or what she should do now.