she's picky about the photos and asks that they be deleted...not that she never wants her picture taken.
I still struggle to see how this would play out. So now time playing with the baby becomes more about a photo shoot for the SM, with constant breaks for her to make she gets a shot she approves of? What if the baby doesn't look good in a particular photo? I am glad I don't have to deal with this. To me, the SM is 100% SS.
I'm with you, TurtleDove. When I try to get pictures of my kid, I'm looking for candids, not photo sessions. The letter writer's baby is a person, not a prop for Stepmother's photo shoot. If she shies away from photos or demands that they're deleted, she has to face the consequences.
My sister hates having her picture taken. For years I couldn't get a picture of her. But when my daughter was born, my sister realized that if she wanted my daughter to look back and remember hanging out with her favorite auntie, she was going to have to let her picture be taken a few times.
Now I have tons of pictures of my sister. It wasn't hard for her to figure out that if she wants to be part of the photographic memories, she's going to have to be in some photos.