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Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« on: February 21, 2013, 04:27:13 PM »
As the title says - is it considered rude to wear black to a wedding?  My mother always taught me this rule.  I was just thinking because most of my wardrobe is in black.  I have a lovely black cocktail dress that would be perfect, and very easy to dress up or down as desired.  I do have some non-black stuff but it's not as comfortable and might be just a tad warm for a summer wedding.

(P.S. to anyone who remembers my post about affordability - I mentioned it to the bride and she suggested pairing me up with a mutual friend who was looking for a more local person to share accommodations with, for cost help.  So, happy ending!)

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #1 on: February 21, 2013, 04:31:30 PM »
In NYC its considered weird to wear anything but black to a wedding!  ;D
(ok not really, women do occasionally wear colors and they aren't seen as weird, but black is definitely the most popular dress color for formal events 'round here.)

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #2 on: February 21, 2013, 04:34:22 PM »
I think it depends on your area. Have you seen women in black at other weddings you’ve attended?

I don't find it rude, but I haven't seen it very often. I would probably dress it up with colorful accessories.

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #3 on: February 21, 2013, 04:36:17 PM »
Not rude as far as I know.

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #4 on: February 21, 2013, 04:37:33 PM »
Depends where you are, really. Also time of day.

It's universally rude to wear mourning clothes to a wedding. (White in some asian countries, I believe) or anything that says you are unhappy with the wedding.

A black cocktail dress with sparkly jewelry or colourful accessories (and a happy smile) at an evening wedding would not raise an eybrow. A full length black gown in the middle of the day would (actually that would be odd even at not-a-wedding.)

 

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #5 on: February 21, 2013, 04:42:21 PM »
As the title says - is it considered rude to wear black to a wedding?

Not in my experience.
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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #6 on: February 21, 2013, 04:54:58 PM »
In NYC its considered weird to wear anything but black to a wedding!  ;D
(ok not really, women do occasionally wear colors and they aren't seen as weird, but black is definitely the most popular dress color for formal events 'round here.)

I was just going to say it is beyond common in the NY/NJ/PA area.
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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #7 on: February 21, 2013, 05:02:26 PM »
Can you dress it up with something colorful? A scarf/wrap? The point is that a wedding is a celebration and that going to one looking funerial is not appropriate. So a pretty black party dress paired with some colorful accesories would be appropriate.

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #8 on: February 21, 2013, 05:30:28 PM »
No, it's not.
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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #9 on: February 21, 2013, 05:46:51 PM »
It really irks me when people wear solid black to a wedding, but there's no stopping the tide. People are going to do it.

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #10 on: February 21, 2013, 05:55:14 PM »
I don't think it's rude at all.  I wore a nice black suit to a wedding, and later changed to a colorful dress for the reception (which was a couple hours later).

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #11 on: February 21, 2013, 05:57:17 PM »
I think its fine but if you can accessorise with colour, i think that's nicer than flat black.

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #12 on: February 21, 2013, 05:58:09 PM »
No.  Not anymore, alot of brides are even having their bridesmaids wear black

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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #13 on: February 21, 2013, 06:04:08 PM »
In NYC its considered weird to wear anything but black to a wedding!  ;D
(ok not really, women do occasionally wear colors and they aren't seen as weird, but black is definitely the most popular dress color for formal events 'round here.)

I was just going to say it is beyond common in the NY/NJ/PA area.

But not so much where I live (Tucson, AZ area). I'm pretty sure it would raise eyebrows here and I'd never do it myself. It seems to be OK for the bridal party to wear black, but not for guests.

If I were the OP, I'd take a quick poll of people who live in my area and see what they think, as opinions on the matter seem to vary quite a lot by region. It also can't hurt to ask the bride what her colors are so that you don't wear that color if you decide against black.
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Re: Is it still rude to wear black to a wedding?
« Reply #14 on: February 21, 2013, 06:28:22 PM »
Not in Texas for an evening wedding at least. At the last wedding I attended the MO B was in a beautiful black dress.