Here's the last part of that discussion in that thread to go off of:
The desserts OTOH usually seem designed as a single portion, at least in presentation (restaurant desserts often seem quite large). I'm thinking in terms of pie, cake, ice cream, a brownie, etc., which is the kind of thing I'm used to seeing in restaurants.
But go on the updated information that I'm not talking about pie, cake and ice cream but desserts that have "pieces" to them. What then?
I hope I'd say something like "Oh, no thank you. I don't need any extra forks."
Can you do that, though? I mean, if he's already putting down forks at each person's place, it seems really awkward to say, "Oh no, take all those back from everyone. I'm not sharing." It just seems kind of touchy when it's already in the works.
Sharnita says she takes it as a divine sign that she doesn't need the calories. But, darn it, sometimes I want my own dessert. Especially, like I said above, when it's my birthday, and they bring me out something special to celebrate it.....and then tell everyone they can have some, too. I should get to make that decision - not the restaurant.
(ETA: Is this "waiter makes assumption that it's going to be shared" thing a US one, maybe? Maybe this doesn't occur in other parts of the world. If so, I wish you'd come over and educate our servers that it's not a nice thing to do to us. It puts us on the spot. Seriously, it's all happening so fast, there isn't time to catch them before everyone has a fork at their side - sometimes the forks/spoons are passed out even before the dessert is placed on the table.)