Thankfully my parents, and now my mom, and me, all enjoy good food. and when we eat out, we'd share an appetizer, or we'd each get our own, or soup, or salad, our own meals, and maybe dessert. But there was never any "policing" about who ordered what. And we all love to eat, and try new things, so inevitably, we'd all end up tasting whatever anyone else had! And that includes wine and cocktails!
My mom has commented on my weight which is more than it should be, but if I choose to order dessert now, she could care less. And she usually helps me eat it too!!!!