My mom is a little bit of a food dictator, but thankfully she will laugh at herself when she's called on it. She's more petite than everyone else in our family, and she's constantly trying to watch her weight. It is also true that she does tend to eat less than everyone else, but it is also true that she fills up on carbs (bread, appetizers, breadsticks, etc) so she's not really that hungry when the actual meal rolls around. So, when we're at a restaurant, she will often either want to split a meal with someone or, more often, she will decide to "just get a salad" and "have a bite of what everyone else is having." Restaurant potions are so huge that even that her expecting us to share is really not a problem. The problems arise when she starts negotiating what everyone will order so she can have "a taste" of all her favorite things. Also, she tends not to eat red meat out, so she will push us towards the fish and chicken entrees. If we've decided to split an entree, we already know what her preferences are, so it's not such a big deal, but there have been times when she might as well have a conductor's baton in her hand - that's how much she's tried to orchestrate the meal. Now, as then, we used a combination of politely ignoring it and saying exasperatedly "Why don't you just order your own meal?!?!?"