I don't talk to ANYBODY, EVER, for even an hour a week, let alone multiple days of a week. I email my friends a lot, I'm on FB a lot, but I rarely speak on the telephone with anybody but business or people caring for my mother. I am friends with people I speak to at most once a year, and yet we pick things right up and are good. I've known some of those people since I was 4 years old. I'm now nearly 58. Even my current best friend, whom I have known for nearly 20 years, I don't speak with her even once a week. We DO email each other a ridiculous number of times per day, about trivia and serious things alike.
Anybody demanding that I make repeated contact with them in a manner I'm not comfortable with, at a contact rate I'm not comfortable with, isn't a friend I want to continue on with. When that repeated contact is for THEM to vent or wail and moan about their life, and they won't listen to me talk/moan/female dog about my life - it's that much worse. Real friendships have enough mutuality in them that nobody feels taken advantage of. Real friendships understand the inevitable ebb and flow that happens when something demands ALL your attention, or incapacitates you. Hiding because the world is too much to deal with right now is very very different from lashing out and hurting others, imo. Refusing to understand such a situation or condition in a friend, and demanding that they continue 'ministering' to you and your issues is juvenile and immature, (again imo.)
Not to compare people and pets, but - to do exactly that - some people have really friendly cats who never met a lap they wouldn't curl up and purr on. Other people have cats who are very shy, who need to be left alone to come out when they're good and ready. Both kinds of cats are good cats. You can't force a shy cat to be brave. You deal with them as they are. Humans need to do that with each other too. Not everybody can always be happy and outgoing and eager to listen to you. If you can't handle them and accept them for being WHAT THEY ARE, then move on. Don't lash out at them for not being what you want.
All 'you's' are strictly generic, not aimed at any poster here.