I 100% agree with this post. I think people are being pretty harsh on the OP in this thread. It is pretty clear to me that Rora was in the wrong here.
It may be clear to you, but it's equally clear to other people that Rora wasn't in the wrong. I think the point of posting was to get different perspectives.
It sounds to me like OP and Rora are just coming at friendship from different perspectives. Rora is a sharer. She obviously thinks that friends talk about their problems, even when there are a lot of them or it's tough. OP is an internalist. When things get tough, she withdraws and keeps her issues to herself. Neither way is wrong, but it's incredibly frustrating to be a sharer and be friends with an internalist. It feels like your friend is constantly shutting you out and doesn't want you involved in their life. Maybe you can come to grips with that and be able to understand that it's just how they are and they're not trying to keep you away, and you can still be friends. But maybe you can't, and you decide the friendship is over. Rora went the second route. That's not wrong, it just might be the right choice for her. (By contrast, it's frustrating for an internalist to be friends with a sharer because, as we see with the OP, you feel like the other is constantly unloading their problems on you.)
Looking at it from Rora's perspective, she has a good friend who suddenly and without any explanation cuts her off completely for 6 months. That has got to hurt bad. Then her friend contacts her again, and she makes the decision to forgive and forget and carry on the friendship. Then only a few months later it happens again. She does what she thinks friends do and shares how she feels to try to resolve the problem. She also reaches out to the boyfriend to find out what else is going on and if OP is intentionally ignoring her. Instead she just gets the brush-off and told "she's going through a lot." In her world, if you're going through a lot, then you talk to your friends about it. If OP doesn't want to talk to her, then it means they're not really friends after all and she gets mad at being strung along instead.
Or Rora might just be a selfish witch who only cares about herself. It's hard to know for sure, but it's possible for two people to have different perspectives on a relationship
and for both of them to feel like the other one is the bad friend who abandoned them. I think OP just needs to decide how important this relationship
is to her. If it's important enough to her, then she'll approach Rora again, explain where she was coming from, and apologize for withdrawing. She'll also explain that not sharing what's going on with her doesn't mean she doesn't consider Rora not to be her friend, it's just that she doesn't share with anyone. Then it will be up to Rora to decide whether that's a relationship
she can handle or not. Or OP can decide that this isn't the kind of relationship she
can handle and just let it go while remembering the good times. But neither of them has to be the bad guy or in the wrong for the relationship