Remind me never to get a long haired cat. I think that, in Hawaii, I would need that kitty shaved twice a year.
While not a cat, my mare Misty is like a 3 year old girl when I'm getting the tangles out of her mane. I started when she was 18 months. While she is better at 7 years old, she's still a little priss.
I found a concentrated silicone-based mane & tail tamer that seems to help. I spray the (diluted appropriately) product on her mane, then alternately finger comb and use a wide-spaced rubber-tipped wire brush, starting at the bottom and working up.
Yes, it takes a while. No, she is not patient. She stopped trying to bite me while I'm detangling her mane, but only because I punch her in the nose when she bites me. Now she just does these "nip the air" gestures to let me know that she does not like having her mane detangled and she wants to bite me.
Once I get it all detangled, she tosses her mane like a supermodel. Why yes, she does think she's Diety's gift to the world. Don't you?
My cat, Bootsie, is short haired and loves to be brushed. There is no brush invented that she does not like and your arm will fall off before she gets enough. At 19, she has a few problems cleaning the "sany" area. I use wet wipes. I can't get her to hold still so I can trim the fur around her butt.
Edited because I forgot one must never use silicone based products on cats. D'oh!