Ouch, WillyNilly. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to bring up a hurtful memory for you. I can relate.. we were the poor kids growing up. There were 5 of us (plus parents) in a ~900 sq foot house, and there was no room for extras.. heck half the time there was no room for the essentials in the budget. I don't remember having a birthday party anywhere but in our back yard. Luckily (?) most of my friends and cousins were poor too so there wasn't a lot of jealousy going on.
I really hope that I didn't make anyone feel the way you felt at your birthday party, and I'm sorry that memory was hurtful enough to stick with you all these years.
So.. two new questions.
1- Should I apologize to the host? If so, how?
2- Do you send a thank-you card for gifts like this received at a birthday party? It seems kind of weird. Maybe a "thank you again" text or FB message?