Thank you! I feel a bit silly posting now, but I am fairly unused to the teetotal life I'm sure that it will soon feel quite normal.
You will be suprised how quickly you get used to it . I was a social drinker for most of my life , including my 20's when I was REALLY social
I ended up with a job that just did not enable me to go out with friends for something like 6 months . It was work , sleep , eat and repeat .
Once the work insanity died down , I discovered that my tolerance for alcohol had dropped dramatically . Two drinks now put me in the woozy " Whoa , I better slow down " catagory . The hangovers were much worse .
Over the next few years , I found that I just didn't like feeling drunk , or even buzzed . I couldn't for the life of me even remember why I ever thought it was fun .
I still drink on occasion with friends , but it's more of a knee-jerk response than any real desire to have a drink . After one drink / beer ( which takes me forever to finish ) , I usually switch to something non - alcoholic . Then I spend the night wondering why I even ordered the first one . Old habits die hard , I guess .
Of course , this is a personal choice . I have many friends that still PAARR-TAAAY. I do not judge them for their preferences and they do not judge me for mine . I did have to draw the line at the assumption that since I was not drinking , I would become the permanent Designated Driver .
One side effect - I can no longer stand drunk people . This usually results in me leaving earlier than everbody else so that also kept me out of the default DD role . Apparently , nobody else wanted to go home at 10:00 PM on a Saturday night .
I also discovered that with certain groups , if I could not come at the beginning of the party , it was better to not go at all . If I arrived and people were already drunk , it made me want to turn on my heel and leave . I did better when we all started off sober and then as people got tipsy I could decide at which point I would make my exit . I still had fun CRIVINS! my friends , but when they started getting drunk , the fun was over for me .
As for offering a reason - I never did . The most I would say was " I just feel like having ______". No one ever argued with me . If you are with drink-pushers , you may have to take a tougher stance , but you are not obligated to defend your choices to anyone
. At my age , the only reason I need for anything is " I don't want to ."
Adding this - RooRoo has some fantastic advice , especially about taking your own car and (unobtrusively) smelling your drinks . Mistakes do happen and some people will not take NO for an answer . Just because someone walks up and shoves a beer in your hand does not mean you are obligated to drink it . Hand it back , or set it down and tell them politely " Thanks , but I don't want this , please don't buy/bring me any more ." Repeat as often as necessary or just walk away and leave it there .
What they do with it after that is their problem , not yours . They will soon learn that they can't guilt you into drinking if you don't want to .