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Re: But I called you for a reason...
« Reply #15 on: March 05, 2013, 09:02:29 PM »
I called her back and when she answered, I asked her if she had time to talk this time because she kind of rushed me off the phone last time.  She said, "I know I did..." in the tone of voice she uses when she wants to say more but can't, "but I can talk now."  We talked about what I had intended to speak the first time.  I can speculate why she couldn't talk but it really doesn't matter; we discussed what needed to be discussed and that was that.

Thanks for the help and for talking me through being a bit more butthurt than usual.
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Re: But I called you for a reason...
« Reply #16 on: March 06, 2013, 03:38:57 AM »
Yay!  ;D

Good on you for bringing it up without blame. You gave her a chance to acknowledge and she did. Glad you got to say your peace. *hug*

Good luck with your "sore butt."  ;)
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Re: But I called you for a reason...
« Reply #17 on: March 06, 2013, 04:19:10 AM »
My mother doesn't wait till the end of the story either, before butting in. I get the feeling it's not just this incident that raises the OP's ire, but it's been a building source of irritation for years. At least that is how it is with me.

It'll go, "Part A of this story happened, and...."
"Yes, I know, blah blah blah tangent...."
"Yes, but the reason I was telling about part A is that Part B needs to..."
"Oh, yes, Part B blah blah blah........tangent."
"Wait! That was NOT what I was going to say. So as I was saying, Part B and Part C..."

It's like, constant interruptions, and it's not because I'm long winded. I don't have this problem with other people, and, in fact, I witness her doing this with other people when I really am interested to hear what the other person has to say, but isn't allowed to finish the story.

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Re: But I called you for a reason...
« Reply #18 on: March 06, 2013, 08:14:08 AM »
I called her back and when she answered, I asked her if she had time to talk this time because she kind of rushed me off the phone last time.  She said, "I know I did..." in the tone of voice she uses when she wants to say more but can't, "but I can talk now."  We talked about what I had intended to speak the first time.  I can speculate why she couldn't talk but it really doesn't matter; we discussed what needed to be discussed and that was that.

Thanks for the help and for talking me through being a bit more butthurt than usual.

Great! May I speculate that she didn't want or couldn't talk money at that moment (perhaps in front of other people)?

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Re: But I called you for a reason...
« Reply #19 on: March 06, 2013, 04:49:01 PM »
I called her back and when she answered, I asked her if she had time to talk this time because she kind of rushed me off the phone last time.  She said, "I know I did..." in the tone of voice she uses when she wants to say more but can't, "but I can talk now."  We talked about what I had intended to speak the first time.  I can speculate why she couldn't talk but it really doesn't matter; we discussed what needed to be discussed and that was that.

Thanks for the help and for talking me through being a bit more butthurt than usual.

Great! May I speculate that she didn't want or couldn't talk money at that moment (perhaps in front of other people)?

She's at my sister's house and I have a feeling it has to do with being in front of my sister.  It's a bit complicated...
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Re: But I called you for a reason...
« Reply #20 on: March 06, 2013, 07:15:15 PM »
I called her back and when she answered, I asked her if she had time to talk this time because she kind of rushed me off the phone last time.  She said, "I know I did..." in the tone of voice she uses when she wants to say more but can't, "but I can talk now."  We talked about what I had intended to speak the first time.  I can speculate why she couldn't talk but it really doesn't matter; we discussed what needed to be discussed and that was that.

Thanks for the help and for talking me through being a bit more butthurt than usual.

Great! May I speculate that she didn't want or couldn't talk money at that moment (perhaps in front of other people)?

She's at my sister's house and I have a feeling it has to do with being in front of my sister.  It's a bit complicated...

This reminds me of the time when my father was staying with my brother and SIL after Hurricane Katrina.  My SIL is a pill at the best of times and Brother caters to her every whim. 

I was talking with my Dad and he says "It's too noisy in here. Let me go outside and talk"  Once he got outside he says "I can't stand living with these people.  Can I come and stay with you?"  I said of course he could but fortunately he was able to go back to his house a few days later.