Someone asked why Connor hasn't spoken up.
He very much wants to do so, but feels that - as a boyfriend - he doesn't have the right to interfere in the relationship between Anna and her parents. He is trying to respect that.
However, once he become's Anna's husband, they as a unit have the right to make decisions and he does have the right to express these decisions - to whomever. He is looking forward to having the 'social authority' to intervene.
Oh dear. Those poor children. This is a disaster waiting to happen.
I feel really sorry for Anna, in particular. She's sandwiched between very controlling parents on one side, and a fiance on the other who is quietly waiting for the marriage certificate to lay down the law, and declare how he wants things to be.
I can see this going one of two ways. First version, they get married, and Connor tries to declare How Things Will Be as a married couple. It doesn't work, Anna still give into her parents, Connor tries to fight back and you've got a volatile, very messy, situation. Second version, Anna, used to giving into authority, is now being bossed around by her husband, rather than her parents, and still has no say in how things go.
If I were talking to Connor I'd smack him upside the head, and point out first that he's acting like Anna's parents, except he's assuming that a marriage certificate gives him the right to control her, instead of parentage. His first task is to honestly talk to Anna and explain his issues, and ask (and listen) to what Anna wants to do, and work from there.
And second, that a marriage certificate does not actually change relationship
dynamics, and he can assert his right to make decisions as a unit until he's blue in the face, and he'll still have ultra controlling in-laws and a wife who has zero idea that she's even allowed to stand up to them.
If I were talking honestly to Anna, I'd tell her to move at least a three hour plane ride from both Connor and her parents, and learn to live independently and know who she is and what she wants and how to make her own decisions, and only then think about marrying someone. Connor may be a very nice guy, but Anna is moving from a situation where her long term boyfriend had to go through her parents to ask for a date to the movies, to a husband who is waiting patiently for his chance to lay down the law to her and her parents about how things should be. Nowhere in anyone's mind is Anna a capable and independent adult who can make her own decisions and have a legitimate opinion.
If I were talking to them both, I'd tell them six months to a year of good, weekly marriage/couples counselling, and coming to a workable situation with the parent/Anna/Connor dynamic before even starting to plan a wedding. And use at least three forms of birth control simultaneously until they get to that point.