The BG: This concerns DD14's good friend and our neighbor, "Hannah" and her brother "Bobby", who is DS12's friend. These are the kids who were living with their father-and often spent time alone-while their mother was in jail. For that reason, I often had them in my own home and they became part of the family in a way. The mother got out of jail around Thanksgiving; I've met her and liked her. They still spend weekend nights here quite often.
A couple of weeks ago, on Friday afternoon, Hannah via DD springs it on us that her parents were going out of town and that could she and Bobby stay with us? I grumbled, but said OK. No parents came over to explain, and there was no offer to pick up pizza or dinner.
So, today, DD "remembers" that a few days ago Hannah asked her if she and Bobby could spend the night. Again, no parents called or came over (we're neighbors one building over). One, DD knew we had said "no sleepovers" for this weekend. Second, DD is going to another friend's house for a sleepover!
And I did it! I said "Tell Hannah that it won't be possible".
So why do I feel so guilty and rude?
Thanks for listening!