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Re: "You're being rude" - Etiquette hypocrisy & misunderstandings
« Reply #165 on: March 13, 2013, 07:03:33 AM »
Years ago when I moved to Britain, I left all my Xanth books with my BFF because I didn't have that much space in my moving van. I've borrowed them back from her now, and I cannot stand them. I have no clue what I used to see in them. She doesn't want them back, either, so I think I'll put them on the charity table in my local supermarket.

I think living in Britain cured me of my liking for puns, if nothing else.

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« Reply #166 on: March 13, 2013, 07:35:15 AM »
I had the same issue with my Mercedes Lackey books (Valdemar), in that I thought they were so wonderful when I was young, and then when I went to reread them as an adult, I couldn't believe how annoying and political they were, and I ended up getting rid of all of them.
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Re: "You're being rude" - Etiquette hypocrisy & misunderstandings
« Reply #167 on: March 13, 2013, 08:49:48 PM »
It's funny, I've had the same problems with some books I bought in my late teens and early 20's.  I loved them then, and find them uninteresting now.  I really enjoyed the first few Xanth books, but as the puns kept beating me over the head, I got quite tired of them.  He gets a LOT of them from fans who submit them, and they're too labored for my taste.  I still like the Valdemar books, though.  There are others, that currently escape my brain, that I've culled to make space for newer, more currently enjoyed books.  Amanda Quick.  I LOVED her early stuff in that name, now I'm 'meh' on them.  Some newer ones are still to my taste.  I still enjoy her Jayne Ann Krentz stuff, but I can't read too many in a row, as they're too similar.  She writes under another name, (Crystal?) that is mighty hokey.  I enjoy them from the library, but will never pay for them!
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Re: "You're being rude" - Etiquette hypocrisy & misunderstandings
« Reply #168 on: March 14, 2013, 08:32:28 AM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way. 

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Re: "You're being rude" - Etiquette hypocrisy & misunderstandings
« Reply #169 on: March 14, 2013, 08:38:05 AM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way. 

My reaction -- in the unlikelihood that this ever happens to me again -- will be "Your rudeness, Sir, is the epitome of presumption."  or perhaps the reverse.

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« Reply #170 on: March 14, 2013, 08:46:18 AM »
Evil Pirate would be tempted to stick her tongue out at them. 

I got so tired in college of one girl that lived in my suite constantly asking me what's wrong when I wasn't smiling. My nickname was "Giggles" because I was normally cheerful and laughed easily so apparently she thought that if I wasn't laughing or smiling there must be something terribly wrong.  ::)
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« Reply #171 on: March 14, 2013, 09:19:33 AM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way.

Wow. He sounds like what he really wants is a stir stick up the nose. Why else would he harass people trying to get their morning coffee?
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« Reply #172 on: March 14, 2013, 09:29:28 AM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way.

Would a bland "Yes, it is," be rude?  Because that's what I'd have been tempted to reply with before turning back around.
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« Reply #173 on: March 14, 2013, 03:42:56 PM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way.

This experience absolutely infuriates me. You handled him perfectly.

Personally, I'd have smiled to appease him and turned around and ignored him (as I've done in a slightly similar situation) because I suppose that would be easier for me.

But I may try it your way next time.  :-\

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« Reply #174 on: March 14, 2013, 04:37:13 PM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way.

I would have made the sourest expression ever, just to be contrary to such a one as him.
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« Reply #175 on: March 14, 2013, 06:06:47 PM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way.

I would have made the sourest expression ever, just to be contrary to such a one as him.

Or tell him, "Sure, I'll smile.  After I see you repeat that same routine with the next guy who walks through the door. P.S. I do not exist for your viewing pleasure."

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« Reply #176 on: March 15, 2013, 06:12:39 AM »
This morning, when I was in line to pay for a cup of coffee and an apple fritter, another customer tapped me on the shoulder to get my attention.  I went, "Huh?" and turned to look, and the guy standing behind me gave a really exaggerated grin and pointed to the corners of his mouth.  My expression probably looked something like this:  ???.  He clarified, still grinning, "Smile!"  I said, "No," and turned to face forward again.  He called me rude.  I think he was rude twice; first in touching me when it wasn't necessary, then in telling me to smile when I was minding my own business and trying to wake up the rest of the way.

I would have made the sourest expression ever, just to be contrary to such a one as him.

Or tell him, "Sure, I'll smile.  After I see you repeat that same routine with the next guy who walks through the door. P.S. I do not exist for your viewing pleasure."

This!  His action was not about making the world a happier place, but about *control*.  He ordered CrochetFanatic to do something for his pleasure, because women (in his tiny mind) are there to please men and make themselves pretty and attractive for the men around them.  It's sexist and demeaning.  He was appallingly rude.
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Re: "You're being rude" - Etiquette hypocrisy & misunderstandings
« Reply #177 on: March 15, 2013, 09:42:46 AM »
It's been a while since I got that "smile" from a stranger, but I figure that the next time it happens I'm going to say "Fifty dollars, please." I suspect he won't want to give me fifty dollars, but I won't want to smile at him, so fair's fair. (I don't actually expect to get the money, I just want to see how the next boor reacts.)
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« Reply #178 on: March 15, 2013, 11:33:42 AM »
I like to give the most outrageously fake, teeth-baring grin I can muster, kinda like a chimp's aggression display, complete with dead eyes.  You want a smile?  Here ya go.

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« Reply #179 on: March 15, 2013, 11:54:46 AM »
I think I would say "I am smiling" while keeping the same expression that was already in place.