Thanks for all the words of encouragement. She was a bit cranky when I got home today but said nothing about the concert and her mood has improved alot.
This is the second concert trip with her friend that has had drastic changes. Last year DD begged me to buy her a One Direction concert ticket for her birthday. The concert is July 2013 at Hershey Park. I questioned her quite abit about how this would all shake out. Both girls would be 17 at the time and able to drive. She assured me her friend and mom was on board so I bought the ticket (other mom ordered them and I paid her back). Earlier this year DD tells me other mom is not comfortable with the driving situation as the concert gets out late and legally 17 year olds are not supposed to drive after a certain hour. And then I am also told friend's sister is coming along(I did not know this) and a 17 year old driver is only allowed one passenger not two. DD then looks expectantly at me like I am going to fix all this.....like I would drive one way (yes 2+ hour drive) and other parent could pick up. That was an easy NO. I asked why there were no problems when the initial plans were made, now suddenly it is a problem. The end result is that other mom is taking them and getting a hotel room and they will all stay the night.
This latest concert DD expected friend to drive as she is already 17. Friend said she could drive, now says she can't. DD did call her out on that which is a first for her.
I have no problem picking up for a parent that has an emergency. So far that has only happened once that I can remember. Most times I am asked to step in it is because a parent has over booked themselves, something better came along or they just changed their mind.
Unfortuneately public transportation is non existant in our area. If you want to get someplace, someone has to drive.
The more I say NO the stronger I feel. And my DD does have a habit of thinking that my time is not valuable. I am so trying to break her of that. Can't wait for her to be able to drive and see how expensive it is.
I swear my DD is the reincarnation of my grandmother....everything is all about her wants and needs and she never sees how much this may put out others. I would agree to pick them up from the bowling alley at 9pm and suddenly she is chaging that to 11pm from the movie theater. She cannot see what the big deal is as I said I would pick them up. She cannot grasp that I agreed to bowling alley 9pm not movies at 11. She does not see that are two entirely different things... all she remembers is that I said I would be the pick up person.