I'm the one who loves the "frenetic" (as it was once called by a travel companion) pace on vacation. I can (and do!) relax at home. When I'm paying big bucks for airfare and hotel and meals, I want to go go go.
However, I do also want to eat nice meals -- in local restaurants. No chains while on vacation unless I'm stranded/desperate.
Now, I've made the mistake, a couple of times, of vacationing with people who are not of the same mind as me. The first two times I did this, it worked out as we just went our separate ways and met back up. I don't mind doing things alone so I went and did all the crazy touristy stuff I wanted while she just hung back and did whatever. The other time it was a large group and one couple wanted to sleep in so we let them while the rest of the group went out on the boat as planned.
The third time, however, I learned my lesson. I was stuck at a sort of remote location and I had to depend on others for transportation. It was a large group, most of whom wanted to sleep till 10 then pad around in PJs till lunch time, etc. I about went nuts.
So... I will not again go on a trip with people who don't have the same vacation style as me. I'm not saying my way is better, just different. I have a friend who goes on a cruise annually. She and her husband get a cabin with a balcony and pretty much sit there the entire vacation. I think they go to meals and that's it. No boat activities, no off-boat excursions. They love it and are very happy. I would probably jump off the boat after about 2 hours just to break up the monotony.
So again, they're happy doing their thing, I'm happy doing mine, and never the twain will meet, so it's best not to try to make them.