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do you think she's being a bridezilla?

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spaceheatersusan:

--- Quote from: LeveeWoman on March 21, 2013, 07:29:01 AM ---
Indeed. Etiquette Hell would be a far, far smaller site if members didn't post about issues they're having with people off the site.

--- End quote ---

Not really.  The OP is bringing up issues that are not relevant to her situation at all in order to paint the bride in a bad light.

Mental Magpie:

--- Quote from: spaceheatersusan on March 31, 2013, 11:22:37 AM ---
--- Quote from: LeveeWoman on March 21, 2013, 07:29:01 AM ---
Indeed. Etiquette Hell would be a far, far smaller site if members didn't post about issues they're having with people off the site.

--- End quote ---

Not really.  The OP is bringing up issues that are not relevant to her situation at all in order to paint the bride in a bad light.

--- End quote ---

Or is the OP bring up said issues to show us why she thinks of the bride the way she does?  To give us evidence as to why she feels this matter is happening?  Also, I don't understand the "not really"; in one instance you're saying LeveeWoman's comment is improbable but in the  next you're talking about something unrelated.  Could you please expand on the "not really" if it isn't related to your second sentence or explain how it is related to the second sentence if it is?  (No snark, I really don't understand the congruence between the two.)


OP, while you probably should have said "no" from the start, hindsight is 20/20.  In the current instance, I think you should just talk to the bride face to face, if possible, and if not, at least over the phone.  Start off by saying, "I want to hear your concerns but I want you to hear mine, too.  I will listen to you without interrupting if you listen to me without interrupting."  Then do exactly that.  If she doesn't hold up her end of it (ie interrupts you), tell her that you think it is best you bow out now before things get worse, offer your condolences that you couldn't be what she wanted, and hang up.

spaceheatersusan:
Whoa, I'm replying to this really late!  Anyways, my "not really" would have made more sense if I hadn't trimmed the quote tree quite as much as I had!  The quote right above the one I commented on was that "everyone on etiquettehell was gossiping".  My point in saying "not really" was that there's a difference in telling your story and posting about issues we're having with people off the site, as opposed to sharing irrelevant details that will make the other person seem like a "bad guy" to make your case stronger.  The irrelevant details, in my opinion, is what constitutes gossiping and cattiness.

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