Which brings me to a question. I've seen many peple say that this outgoing message would be SS because it forces people to take extra steps to contact you. Yet I've also read several posts saying "turn off vm". If vm is turned off, it leads to the same extra steps, so does that make everyone without it SS? I don't have it on my home phone. I don't think that makes me SS. And I know that local cell plans, vm is almost always included and it costs extra to remove it. So why can't someone leave that outgoing message to text and not be SS if they'd be allowed to turn off vm?
Has nothing to do with turning off vm.
The snowflakey part involves not wanting to take time to punch in a pass code or to listen to a message AND insisting that callers text or use your (general) preferred method of communicating. Typing a text message takes more effort and often more time than retrieving a voice mail message. So, the :too much time and effortĒ excuse is not valid.
I don't mean to split hairs but I don't think it's snowflakey to not want
to go to that trouble. I don't want to
, but I still do it. Like I said, I think VM is a necessary evil.
Totally agree with BuffaloFang.
Also, it goes back to what I said earlier about a persons communication circle and relationships. If people are leaving long or boring or (what you feel are) unnecessary messages, its not the fault of the voice mail function. The blame should but put on them, and on you (general) for not asking them to please stop leaving you long, boring, or unnecessary messages. I've seen posts complaining about a spouse or SO or friend leaving an irritating "Returning your call" or "Why aren't you answering your phone?" message. Well, whose fault is that?
If I receive several overly long, boring, or unnecessary emails is that the fault of my computer or even my email system? No. Should I just say I hate email because I have to login with a password? Um, no.
Whiny messages from DH aren't my fault. I can't make him stop calling and leaving whiny VM's. I've asked him nicely and not-so-nicely. I've been passive-agressive and agressive-agressive. The only thing I haven't tried is doing the same thing to him. And I can't be bothered to because at this point I figure nothing will work. I have, through a process of non-cooperation, trained him to call me a lot less than he used (thank goodness).
Off-topic but just want to rant: if he doesn't aggravate me with a whiny VM, then he will call over and over and over and over. One time at a check-out, he called and I rejected the call figuring I 'd call him back as soon as the transaction was over. He called right back. Figuring he'd just keep calling, I answered the phone with a, "I'm at a checkout, I'll call you back." He said, "Well wait I just want to..." to which I repeated myself and disconnected. Cashier probably thought I was a rude wife but I was trying to be polite to her.
My DH and I must have totally different views of communication. When I call or text and leave a message, I put it out of my mind until they get back with me. Even if someone is avoiding talking or avoiding talking /texting with me, I still don't assume they're doing that. I don't take it personally at all. Maybe because I hate when people call me. I don't hate the people, I just hate that device ringing...beckoning me to pick it up and deal with it.
My DH seems to take it so personally when he can't get through to someone. His mind leaps to 'they're avoiding me' when most times I'd swear on my life they're not! I almost never hit 'reject' to one of DH's calls. It's almost like he views the phone as an 'instant-communication-device'. Almost everyone I know has a cellphone - that does not mean that everyone who has one is instantly accessible all the time. So why get upset if they don't answer or can't get back to for a while?
I remember my brother telling a friend who was getting snippy with him when she felt that my brother wasn't returning her calls fast enough. He responded, "I pay $130.00/month for MY convenience. It's not a digital tether that anyone who knows my number can jerk on when they want my attention." I'm all like, 'can I borrow that?'