DH's extended family makes me a little nuts with the hyposcrisy of this. The dysfunction is incredible; none of them can stand each other, and any gathering will include copious amounts of nasty gossip about any who aren't there. Get persons A, B, and C together, and they'll talk about D. Get A and D together, and they'll talk about B and C,and so forth. They treat each other like crap and hold grudges forever. Yet they will all piously hold forth about the sacred bonds of FAAAAMMMMMIIIIILLLLLY - ugh.
I was roundly chastised for speaking sharply to DH's idiot cousin, age 26, who announced that 'all military guys are ***holes'. Well, some are; any population is going to have some members who are jerks. But it's ridiculous to make that kind of all inclusive statement, and I'll be doggoned if I'll let your slacker butt slander my brother, who is fighting PTSD after 26 years active duty including tours in Somalia, Afghanistan, Kuwait, and Iraq, not to mention his friends and companions who didn't make it back. But no; we're faaaaammmiilllly and family forgives each other.