I would be very curious to know what Ehellions think about this practice.
In my immediate family my siblings and I all have kids. One of my siblings, I will call X, is divorced and his children's mother has a baby by another father. Whenever my other sibling or I have bday parties where X's children are invited we always send a goody bag with X's children to give their other sibling. We have done this for several years, since the other sibling was born.
However I was at a party for one of my nieces recently and a parent at the party saw as my SIL gave the goody bag to one of X's kids to take to her sibling. And said parent had a fit. She first said it was "tacky" to send a "1/2 sibling" who was not a "real" member of our family the bag. She then said that she was surprised that the mother hadn't been "insulted" by the goody bag when her other child was not invited to the party. Basically saying that we were rude for sending the goody bag home but not inviting the child in the first place. She then requested a goody bag for her own nephew who was not known to the birthday child and therefore had not been invited to the party. My SIL and I was just floored. We always felt it was ok to send the goody bag since the sibling at home would see her sisters coming home with the goodies. We thought it was a fair and nice gesture and honestly never thought anyone would find any fault with this practice. But, now I have to wonder. Is it rude to send a goody bag to a nonrelated (to me) sibling of your nieces and nephews? My SIL was, I think, polite. She told the parent that "oh, we've always done it this way" and explained that she did not have any extra bags for the parent's nephew. Which parent seemed to except but had a very irritated look on her face. Thankfully the party was over then and everyone was leaving. What does everyone think? I honestly never thought anyone would see this as a negative act and now I'm a little unsure how the goody bags are perceived. My SIL and I wonder if we should not be sending them?