I wonder if it is s local dignitary or somebody else who would have more aattendance than is typical.
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It always ticks me off when someone gets special treatment because he is 'important', but I certainly understand that it could cause a rukus when there are crowds and people get upset with how they are treated.
I agree, but in Sharnita's defense, she did say "dignitary
or somebody else who would have more attendance than is typical." There are all kinds of reasons why one person's funeral might attract a bigger crowd than another's. Funerals for teenagers tend to be crowded, because you get their school friends, the friends' parents, the co-workers of the deceased's parents, etc., in addition to the relatives. Whereas the funeral for, say, a childless 90-year-old widow(er) might only draw a handful of nieces and nephews, grandnieces and nephews, neighbors and friends. Neither of them is more "important" than the other.
The fact that this is the first time OP has encountered this has me thinking it's one of the following scenarios:
A. This particular funeral did attract more mourners than usual;
B. There was more than one funeral going on at the same time (many funeral homes can accommodate two or more);
C. The funeral home, being next to a Catholic church, tends to have mostly Catholic funerals, which don't often attract a large crowd to the home all at once. In my experience the wake (calling hours) are held at the funeral home (people are in and out), and the funeral is a Mass in a church held a day or two later. I've been to exactly one Catholic funeral service in my life that was not a Mass -- it was held at the funeral home after the calling hours.
I think the gracious thing to do, if you absolutely, positively can't find a parking spot, is to (if feasible) go to another church for Mass that day, or give up and go home. I respect the spiritual commitment involved in going to daily Mass, but there are good reasons to forgo it for a day, such as illness, and IMO respecting the needs of the grieving counts as one.