Some BG: DH does work as a "Gaming Expert"(GE) at gaming tournaments during the weekend. Sometimes they are local, but usually not. Sometimes, when they are local to us, we will have GE's from other parts of the country asking if they can stay with us.
BG: My husband always tells them the same thing. We do not have a guest room, but we have comfy couches and an air mattress. As long as they are okay with this and our cats, they are welcome to stay with us.
BG: The way this has always worked is, they come in on Friday. Dh will pick them up at the bus station or airport. Saturday and Sunday, I drive them to the tournament (around 8am) and pick them up at the end of the tournament(around 11pm). They are given money for meals each day($20) and usually eat at the tournament.
The story: One GE, Joe, asked DH if he could stay with us for this weekend. Dh agreed. Joe is scheduled to arrive Friday. Two weeks ago, Joe tells DH that his plans have changed a little bit and he will be arriving Thursday instead and he hopes that is okay with DH. DH is not okay with this, but doesn't respond for over a week. We both felt like that was not enough time to ask Joe to find other accomodations for Thursday. So, DH plans to pick Joe up Thursday night at 11:30. Because he is traveling by bus, he is going to call DH when he gets in.
11:30 comes and goes with no phone call from Joe. Joe finally calls at 1am saying that his bus ran late. DH picks him up. Joe will be go sightseeing the next morning and DH will be going to work.
The next morning(Friday), DH is killing time on his ipad before work. He looks up and Joe is in our bedroom. They talk a little bit about the plans for the day. Joe then tells Dh that he has had a problem with his budget and doesn't have any money. None. At this point, DH is unsure what to do, but knows that he wants Joe out of the house for the day. So, DH asks what Joe needs in order for him to go sightseeing like he wanted. DH gives Joe food, buys him a metro card and puts money on it. He leaves Joe at the subway station and they agree on a time DH will pick him up.
At this point, we know that we will be feeding Joe dinner as well. We pick him up at the designated time, feed him dinner and all is well.
Saturday, they leave very early and come home very late. As Dh and I are laying in bed, Joe comes into our bedroom and turns on our light. He asks us if we have a specific charger that he needs. Still in shock, I get up and find him the kind of charger that he needs.
Sunday, I drop them off very early and pick them up very late. On the way home, Joe asks if we can stop for fast food because he is hungry. We go through the fast food drive thru. Dh picks up the bill for the both of them.
Monday morning, Dh takes Joe to the subway station. Joe is going to take the subway to the bus station. They check the amount of money left on Joe's metro card and there is close to $5 still on it. Dh thinks that should be enough to get him to the bus station, but Joe doesn't think so. As Dh is about to leave, Joe says "Wait. What about the fare?". Dh puts a little more money on Joe's metro card and leaves. - End of Story
DH had a hard time figuring out how to deal with Joe. He was irritated with Joe, but felt bad complaining about him. We were both stumped on which situations we could have handled differently. How could we have handled the fact that he was completely broke?
What should we have done? What were we obligated to do? We didn't want to reprimand him like a child.