I really like the idea of having clear, detailed, matter-of-fact rules about using the property. I admit it, I don't travel much to places besides hotels and sometimes certain chores just wouldn't occur to me. I mean, I wouldn't think it was okay to punch a hole in the wall, but I wouldn't necessarily think about tallying up the toilet paper I'd used. Plus, it wouldn't be very fun for me to clean everything at the end of my vacation--I would actually rather someone say, "The cost is $100 for the cleaning service at the end, plus $25 a day for expenses," or whatever. Then I would just pay the money, use the place like I wanted, and leave--I wouldn't have trashed it, of course, but I wouldn't be worrying about vacuuming, doing laundry, changing the trash, figuring out how much coffee I'd used, etc..
Rather than seeing these rules/charges as being a hindrance or punishment to family members, think of them as helpful guidance. Of course, the bad apples will complain about the new rules, because they don't want to follow them. But I think a lot of people would prefer to know the expectations upfront, and even to pay cash so they don't have to worry about certain things, or worry that you will worry.