I myself did not shake someones hand once. For one thing, I was surprised that she stuck her hand out and expected me to shake it--I have always considered that to be something that men did. Oh, I did look at her hand and I was talking to her. But still did not take her hand. In retrospect, she was not and is not someone for whom I have any respect. By her reaction It was clear that she was not happy that I did not shake her hand. But I guess oh well. Little I can do about it now.
Now however. I am a nurse. Part of assessment of patients with head injury is neuro checks and part of that is grip checks. In other words, squeeze my hand. I did all of my assessment on a 40-something year old stroke patient and when I was finished he said: Really I am very strong. I can prove it. and he held out his hand. I did not think anything about it, I took his hand. And he then squeezed my hand so hard that he popped the little bone that runs from my little finger to my wrist completely out of place. It hurt like anything from that point to about 2 weeks later. My hand/wrist was swollen. My whole hand was considerably weaker to the point where I could barely write my name, let alone do charting and other paper work. The patient laughed and laughed. He carried on about how see?? It does not hurt and it feels really funny hahahaha! Meanwhile, I'm in tears. He did not think he had done anything wrong. He went on and on about how his wife gets really mad whenever he does that to someone. It took over an hour for him to understand that not only was he wrong, that it DID hurt and that he was lucky if all I did was call police.
And now, I look a long time at EVERYONE'S hand before I reach out and barely touch their finger tips. If that. Sometimes I will say out right--sorry I don't shake hands. Sometimes I will state why.
And I have always wished to this day that I had called police and pressed charges. But I was a travel nurse. And while nurses as a rule have NO recourse or support in a situation like that one, travel nurses have even less.