I see some holes in this theory. Only the person in line to get the gifts can be labeled a gimme pig. And people don't throw their own showers. These days it's common for a bride-/mom-to-be's church group, co-workers or both to throw her a shower. Sometimes those groups are large. If the guest list for a church or work shower is long, it's not because the GOH is a gimme pig; it's because the custom is to invite everyone in the group.
We've read stories here about BTBs and MTBs who breathed down the necks of their shower organizers and pressed them to invite Great-Aunt Gertie and all the 13th cousins twice removed, even if the organizer couldn't afford to host so many, because presents! So yes, it happens. But I don't think it's as simple as "long guest list = greedy GOH."
That part is definitely true, when it comes to family. Note the original post though I wasn't talking about a huge family but a huge group that was invited that the GoH was a part of. I find it hard to believe that the GoH is all that close to all 80 of the female members of this co-ed group (group is about 140 total, more women than men.) And like I said, it'd be different if they'd have hosted their *own* shower, but the people who made up the hosts (myself included) only one was part of that group with the GoH (and she only brought punch, she wasn't the main coordinator).
And as another poster added--if the size exceeds the ability to host...? Well, since she isn't hosting it, that becomes irrelevant.
In this particular case I honestly don't know all the facts as to how the guest list (inviting all in this group) was arrived upon but I am under the impression that the following happened (based on the "chair" of our group of hostesses' telling me)--
Girl A offered to host the shower. MTB accepted.
Girl A did nothing for months.
I started asking my friend (Girl B) if MTB was having a shower as her due date was approaching and I hadn't heard anything and I wasn't sure if I was just not invited (possible) or if one hadn't been planned. Girl B did not know either but as she is closer to MTB than I am, she decided to look into it, and asked MTB's husband if MTB was having a shower.
MTB's husband (FTB) tells Girl B that Girl A offered to host but had not followed up even to secure a date for the shower.
Girl B worried MTB wasn't going to even *get* a shower and so she went to Girl A and followed up.
Girl A admitted she really didn't know what she was getting in to (she is a recent immigrant to the states and admitted she has never been to a baby shower and did not feel comfortable hosting one, which of course begs the question of why she offered in the first place, but whatever,) and Girl B then stepped in and offered to "help."
Girl B then took over as "chair" and recruited me and several other friends to throw it together in about 3 weeks, which we did. Girl A was asked to bring one food item, which she did.
So with all this I don't even know when the guest list was put together. I can easily see that what happened may have been that MtB told Girl A how many people she wanted to have and Girl A panicked, then didn't do anything and that may have been when the whole thing fell apart. I do know that when Girl B (my friend) stepped in as chair/host, she was given the guest list and was shocked at how big it was, but didn't want to say anything because the MtB already thought she *was* having a shower (thrown by Girl A) and my friend (Girl B) figured some of the "guests" may already have been told they'd be invited, so she didn't have the heart to tell the MtB to trim it or not invite the whole group. (If I'd been "chair" as opposed to just helping, I would have told MtB that I can only handle her friends and family, not that entire group, but that was never my call.)