Well, that last email I sent got a response!! And man, what a response. I think I would have been much happier with an "I'm sorry, I forgot, can we please reschedule." Instead, I got something about having to work late, and then there were police around when she got home, and...
That's fine, but I waited about 24 hours before sending my note, allowing for plenty of time for her to get back to me with any sort of reply (not to mention I gave her both my home and cell phone numbers).
I still wanted the wheel enough to reschedule, so I did. I'm glad I did. I've posted pictures over in the Craftiness folder. Here
Not only did I get an email with the address, I got a followup email that morning, then a followup text, then another followup as I was on the road, as well as a phone call to make sure I got the texts. That made me laugh.
The wool was not what I had thought I was buying. I should know by now not to buy wool "sight unseen". It was matted, felted garbage. It'll make good fertilizer for the garden. But even with the wool, I paid less than the original asking price, so I have decided not to bother or care about it. I'll sort out what I can and recycle the rest.
Thanks to everyone who helped me sort through this and keep me calm.