Thank you for all your responses . I am overwhelmed by the amount of support that I have received here!
I slept on it and spent the morning thinking about it. Because I told her that I would think about it, I am sure she will contact me again. In such a case, I would prefer to contact her on MY terms.
Btw I don't think she is planning a shower
but it is a nice thought though.
Showers are not a norm where I come from. there are a few people who do it, but they are definitely the minority! Besides, my first child is only 2.5 years old. Plus everyone I am close to is very cautious at the moment not to even talk about preparing the house for a new baby, just in case the very worst happens.Further details
There is a small background that I neglected to mention. A couple of years ago, she called me out for drinks. My Angel was just 6 months old then, and I was still struggling as a new mom so I declined. She spent the next 10 mins telling me about this wonderful new skin product that she discovered and started using, and how it made her look years younger. I could tell where the conversation was heading, and used my baby as an excuse to get off the phone. That weekend, MY MOM told me that this friend cornered her after church to talk to her about this new skin product!
Given this history, I am not surprised that this party is a sales party after all. It is hard to explain non-verbal cues, but I did get suspicious enough during our conversation to ask what the party is about. There was just something in the way she spoke, or perhaps in the way she was refusing to take no for an answer. There was something just "off", if you get what I mean. Our mutual friend's explanation made so much sense that I don't question it at all.
The thing is, this was my best friend at one point in my life. We spent 4 days a week together and I had slept over at her house almost every week. I even had space in her closet for my clothes! We did everything together and were like sisters.Suggestions on the wording
Anyway, I think I will only contact her later today, after my trip to the hospital. I do need to see my doctor today who will let me know if further hospitalisation is needed, or if I get to stay home on bed rest.
If I get sent to
the ward, then I will simply tell her:"Sandra, I am in the hospital and am in no condition to attend any party. Btw, I heard that this is a Cosmetic Brand party. Is it true?"
If I am well enough to stay home (fingers crossed), I will tell her a mixture of all your responses:"Sandra, as I had responded through Facebook and on the phone, I cannot come to your party without risking the health and safety of me and my baby. Please stop asking me. Btw, is this a Cosmetic Brand party?