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gellchom:
At the outset, let me clarify: I'm NOT offended, I'm NOT confused about who the hosts are, and I don't think that this is tacky or stupid or anything else!  I'm only posting because I thought this was unusual, and I'm trying to guess what they were thinking.  It's another "no names" invitation.

In today's mail, we got two invitations for a bar mitzvah: one for the Saturday morning service, and one for Shabbat dinner the night before.  The first one reads (names changed, but the name is equally common):

Please join us as our son
David Steven Stein
is called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah
[date, place, time, RSVP, etc.]

But no "signature" line at the bottom with the parents' names, as I have always seen with invitations worded like "Please join us" or the equivalent.

The dinner invitation also has no hosts' names.  It doesn't seem quite as strange, though, because it is phrased in the passive voice ("You are invited to a Shabbat dinner honoring David Steven Stein ... ").

The envelope for the dinner had no return address at all, and the one for the service had an address but no name.  The RSVP line also has no name, only an email address created for the event (including the kid's name and the date).

I don't know these people.  I wondered if the parents had a chilly divorce or something, but my husband says no.

What do you suppose their reason might have been?  He says they are just socially awkward, but I wonder if this is actually an artful solution to some sort of problem.  Can you figure it out?

WillyNilly:
My mom has a friend who was orphaned at the age of about 12. he was adopted by a distant aunt & uncle. They considered him their son from that moment on but he, while fond of them and grateful to them, never considered them his parents. Is that possible?  That is was some sort of compromise with a stubborn teen over wording? (Otherwise my guess would have been a disagreement about listing step-parents, but if there was no divorce...)

bah12:
I'm not familiar with bar mitsvah tradition and have never attended one, so this is just a stab in the dark.

Is it possible that they didn't want to make the event about them (the parents/hosts) and wanted it to be clear that the celebratin was for their son?  Like how in weddings sometimes the parents' names appear on the invitations and sometimes they don't...depending on whether or not the parents are following the traditional recognition of being hosts/paying for the wedding, or the more trendy way of the 'hostless' wedding (i.e. invitatin does not indicate who the hosts are, be in the couple or the families of the couple). 

Otherwise, I would just go with your DH's explanation or think it was an oversight of some kind. I'm thinking that the most likely reason would be that it didn't occur to them to include their names since they don't deem it as important information. You know what, where, and when and how to RSVP, so you have all the info you need. 

Thipu1:
Although we're not Jewish, we've been invited to several Bar and Bat Mitzvahs.  Always, the names of the child's parents have been present because it is assumed that they are hosts for the event.

I would find the wording on this invitation a bit odd. If the invitations were ordered through a print shop, someone there could have advised the parents on what most people expect.  The lack of a return address is decidedly odd. 

Redneck Gravy:
Yes, definitely odd.

I wonder if the parents even realize their names are missing?

I worked at a print shop for over 20 years and sometimes children would order and pay for invitations and never even realize something was missing - even after seeing a proof.

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