So I wanted to share what happened on Saturday. I also have a few questions about what I did, should have done, and what I will do in the future. Unfortunately, I was never able to make it back to this forum after my last post, so I missed out on what would have been very helpful suggestions.
So I called Grandma Friday night to confirm for Saturday and she told me that she had to go to the grocery store after her appointment to pick up a FEW things for gramps (he's handicapped). Knowing her, that could take an extra hour. She didn't even ask me. She just said that her friend might be able to come over after work if I needed to leave.
When I got there Saturday morning, I told her to call me this time if the appointment was cancelled. I also mentioned how the other day she was gone for 1 1/2 hrs longer than she had told me she would be. She clearly hadn't realized that and asked if I was sure.
To try to make a long story short, my cousin was an absolute pest the entire time I was there. I won't go into detail unless someone really wants to hear about it.
Anyway... I think it was about 2 hrs after they left that the DIL called me saying they're done at the hospital and they were going to go to the grocery store, if that was ok with me. They said they could call someone to come relieve me and I said it wasn't necessary. They said they would be home in 1 hr 45 min, so I said that was fine. So about TWO hours later they called and said they were picking up fast food to eat and wanted to know if I wanted anything. They ended up getting home about 30 minutes later. So what was supposed to take 1 hr 45 min. ended up taking 2 hrs 30 min.
When they came home, they had a mini-van full of groceries after they told me they were just picking up a FEW things. Gee, I'd hate to see what regular grocery shopping looks like.
I didn't get paid and didn't expect to. But they did pay for a burger and fries and they bought me some cookies from the bakery in the grocery store.
Next time I think this is what I'll do. Please let me know if you think it's ok. So in the future, I will "babysit" grandpa for free for however long they want as he is a wonderful person and a pleasure to be around. But if they want me to babysit my cousin, they will have to pay. Here is what I intend to charge: If he behaves himself by my standards, there will be no charge. If however he misbehaves or is a pest, there will be an hourly charge on a sliding scale to be determined after they get home. The scale will range from $8 to $20 per hour. So for three hours, the final charge could be anywhere from $0 to $60. Also, if they are an hour or more late with no justifiable excuse (train, accident, etc.) then there will be an additional $10 fee. So, does that sound good? I'd drop it from $20 to $15, but babysitting Dennis the Menace is a lot of mental anguish and $20 sounds about right for that.
And because I know people are wondering, the reason why I agreed to babysit for them Saturday was because they really don't have someone else who can or will babysit. We could've waited until my cousin was back in school (this week) but that causes a potential transportation problem for me. If I had known or expected him to be such a pest Saturday, I would have waited. One day he's an angel, the next he's Satan.
And I've learned that I need to speak up more. It's just that I don't know how to do that and not come across as being rude. I think it's my tone of voice that I have problems with. I can't keep the irritation and rudeness out of it.