In a social sense, this would be the equivalent of demanding someone tell you that they love you. Even if they comply, it won't feel satisfactory.
I agree with this.
And it still hurts--I don't discount this at all.
I put in 12 years, some of them really demanding years--at my old job. When everything got bad, I started looking for a new one.
And had some fantasies about the going-away party, bcs people threw a party, took up collections to give gifts, etc.
But I got laid off before I could find a new job, and there that all went.
I got severance instead, I guess. But i'm still a little disappointed on missing out on all the gestures of appreciation, both intangible and, yes, tangible.