I'm looking for tips and hints, or pitfalls to avoid, in throwing an anniversary party for another couple.
DH has some very good friends that are coming up on their 15th wedding anniversary next year. They have been married longer than any of our other friends, because the bride was only 19 at the time of the wedding. The HC in question has been through a lot - they were expecting at the time of their wedding, they were obviously very young, and they have struggled financially in the past. They have made it to this point with two absolutely wonderful kids, overcome a lot of their obstacles, and really, are some of the nicest people we know. DH's best friend and his wife want to go in with us on throwing them a big celebration - of their family, their commitment, their accomplishments, etc.
I guess I really want to know what the best way is to go about throwing a party like this for someone else. I'm aware that they might want to celebrate privately as well, so we were thinking of doing a big shindig in their hometown and then gifting them with a fancy hotel suite for the night and breakfast in bed the next day, something along those lines. If your friends did something like this for you, what factors would you want considered?
Or would you prefer that your friends not horn in on your anniversary at all?