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TootsNYC

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1380 on: July 14, 2014, 03:50:06 PM »
I'm OK w/ the coupon--just don't brag on it. I don't care how you pay for dinner, just pay for it, and don't make a big deal about it.

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1381 on: July 14, 2014, 03:50:50 PM »
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not on a first date

Definitely not!  That gives the impression that he only asked you out so that he could use the coupon.

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« Reply #1382 on: July 14, 2014, 03:53:12 PM »
I'm OK w/ the coupon--just don't brag on it. I don't care how you pay for dinner, just pay for it, and don't make a big deal about it.

This is where I fall. It would be distasteful to me that he was braggy and made a big deal of it, but I wouldn't mind the coupon or a gift card in general. I am not organized enough to use coupons or gift cards efficiently, so the impression it would give me would be one of fiscal responsibility.
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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1383 on: July 14, 2014, 03:55:03 PM »
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not on a first date

Definitely not!  That gives the impression that he only asked you out so that he could use the coupon.

That doesn't track. There are lots of ways he could use the coupon.

Sure, it's quite likely he picked that restaurant so he could use the coupon, rather than thinking of what would please me most.

But I'd never think that he said, "I have a coupon, how can I use it up? Oh, I know--I'll ask out some girl I'm not actually interested in."

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1384 on: July 14, 2014, 04:08:04 PM »
I think he had one of those coupon books that you buy and was determined to choose a restaurant from it.

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1385 on: July 14, 2014, 05:37:39 PM »
Back in the early 80's, my mom's bosses were cheapskates. She worked in downtown Wakiki at the tourist shops that sold t-shirts, aloha shirts, and souvenirs.  Many tourists were Japanese so most of the workers were Japanese.  My mom is smart and quickly became the personnel manager of the stores, there were 20 plus.  She had to hire, train, fire, and schedule over 150 employees.  She even had a beeper that recorded your voice and played to back to her (I would call her beeper number and say "mom call home" and that would play for her).  She told her bosses, there were two, that she wanted a raise and that the job was so stressful that she had gotten a bloody ulcer.  They said that only if she became a store manager.  So, she became a store manager and they had to hire two people to do her old job, personnel manger.  The bosses then hired a college grad and paid him more money then my mom for the same job.  She asked for the same salary, they said no.  She quit.  Those bosses, who lived in multimillion dollar houses on diamond head (one had a pool moat around his house) could not give my mom a measly $500 more a month.  She is Japanese and are very loyal to the "company", its part of the culture, she would have done any job.  When she left there was an exodus because many of the Japanese women looked up to my mom.  I am not saying that she was super important but the company eventually went bankrupt in a couple of years.     

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« Reply #1386 on: July 27, 2014, 11:27:27 AM »
^^She may not have been "super important" but she was obviously well-respected (not by her bosses but by the other staff), and I think that matters a lot more.
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« Reply #1387 on: July 27, 2014, 11:50:13 AM »
^^She may not have been "super important" but she was obviously well-respected (not by her bosses but by the other staff), and I think that matters a lot more.

Totally agree with GreenEyedHawk here.

In addition, the new employees they hired to replace all those who quit were probably either not fluent (or significantly less fluent) in Japanese, thereby alienating their best customer base.  Some people really don't have a clue as to what makes businesses "work" and somehow they always seem to end up being either owners or CEOs.  So sad.

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1388 on: July 27, 2014, 03:17:00 PM »
I'm in a similar situation right now in my job.  There are two of us that keep the account from going totally under, and we rarely get help.  Surprisingly enough, though, I'm finally getting the special programs I've been asking for for two years to do a better job so maybe the boss is finally waking up. 

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1389 on: August 17, 2016, 10:29:58 AM »
My in-laws are wonderful people, and can be generous with both time and physical goods.

My father in law had a pretty bad accident (no injuries, thankfully!) that totaled his car. He had the car at his home and wanted DH to take the tires off of it and put them on my car, so they would not go to waste as the car was going to be towed to the salvage yard after it was totaled by the insurance company. DH refused. My car wheels and tires are completely different size and in good condition.

Now, we have a big reception for DS coming up Sunday and my MIL has offered to help, which I appreciate. My MIL is in charge of beverages, fruit and veggie trays. Every day, DH, DS and I have a 30 minute minimum conversation with MIL about her ideas for the trays. Oh, and should they be veggie trays or should she put a few carrot and celery pieces in little cups. Oh, and the cups will cost too much, so what should she do, etc.
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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1390 on: August 17, 2016, 12:26:34 PM »
My in-laws are wonderful people, and can be generous with both time and physical goods.

My father in law had a pretty bad accident (no injuries, thankfully!) that totaled his car. He had the car at his home and wanted DH to take the tires off of it and put them on my car, so they would not go to waste as the car was going to be towed to the salvage yard after it was totaled by the insurance company. DH refused. My car wheels and tires are completely different size and in good condition.

Now, we have a big reception for DS coming up Sunday and my MIL has offered to help, which I appreciate. My MIL is in charge of beverages, fruit and veggie trays. Every day, DH, DS and I have a 30 minute minimum conversation with MIL about her ideas for the trays. Oh, and should they be veggie trays or should she put a few carrot and celery pieces in little cups. Oh, and the cups will cost too much, so what should she do, etc.

My car died tragically right after I put brand new tires on it. I can feel for him so much on this. I didn't have anywhere for those to go either.

Then again, I bought a car a few years ago after my beloved Civic bit it, right into the butt of a Dodge Ram. Guess what I noticed after I was enjoying my new-to-me ride? All the tires were different brands...it was summer so the tread wasn't incredibly important to me at the time but I could tell they needed changed in the near future. They had taken off whatever tires were on that car and probably kept them, putting on four balding tires to put on the lot. I don't know if it was the dealer or the person who sold it to him. I know the dealer enough to think that he probably wasn't the one who did it, he didn't put that much effort into such things. I could also see that they most likely took the extra's off the car too that they had added. We had bought another car for him with all the things still in tact, so it's just not in my mind or heart that he'd have put any effort into removing and installing those things elsewhere. The car I got had low mileage and is in great condition, so taking out the bottom racer lights and swapping out the tires just wouldn't have done anything else for a small car dealership. 

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1391 on: August 17, 2016, 12:33:16 PM »
My in-laws are wonderful people, and can be generous with both time and physical goods.

My father in law had a pretty bad accident (no injuries, thankfully!) that totaled his car. He had the car at his home and wanted DH to take the tires off of it and put them on my car, so they would not go to waste as the car was going to be towed to the salvage yard after it was totaled by the insurance company. DH refused. My car wheels and tires are completely different size and in good condition.

Now, we have a big reception for DS coming up Sunday and my MIL has offered to help, which I appreciate. My MIL is in charge of beverages, fruit and veggie trays. Every day, DH, DS and I have a 30 minute minimum conversation with MIL about her ideas for the trays. Oh, and should they be veggie trays or should she put a few carrot and celery pieces in little cups. Oh, and the cups will cost too much, so what should she do, etc.

My car died tragically right after I put brand new tires on it. I can feel for him so much on this. I didn't have anywhere for those to go either.

Then again, I bought a car a few years ago after my beloved Civic bit it, right into the butt of a Dodge Ram. Guess what I noticed after I was enjoying my new-to-me ride? All the tires were different brands...it was summer so the tread wasn't incredibly important to me at the time but I could tell they needed changed in the near future. They had taken off whatever tires were on that car and probably kept them, putting on four balding tires to put on the lot. I don't know if it was the dealer or the person who sold it to him. I know the dealer enough to think that he probably wasn't the one who did it, he didn't put that much effort into such things. I could also see that they most likely took the extra's off the car too that they had added. We had bought another car for him with all the things still in tact, so it's just not in my mind or heart that he'd have put any effort into removing and installing those things elsewhere. The car I got had low mileage and is in great condition, so taking out the bottom racer lights and swapping out the tires just wouldn't have done anything else for a small car dealership. 

His tires still had tread, but they were over a year old. To top it off, somehow DFIL managed to find a replica of his car, one model year newer, even with the same color!
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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1392 on: August 17, 2016, 12:46:34 PM »
I totaled my Ranger on black ice.  It still had the winter tires on the back, on steel rims, when it went to the wrecker.  I was buying the same truck so I kept the summer tires on aluminum rims and planned to put new winter tires on those.

The guy who bought my truck at the wrecker (It was still driveable but needed significant body work) somehow got my information and called me, hoping to trade the winter tires and steel rims for the aluminum rims.  No mention of compensation to me, seeing as the aluminum rims were worth more than the steel rims and winter tires combined.  And gave me some story about not being able to find replacements.  I told him it wasn't my problem and I was keeping the rims I had.

I have learned that *someone* will buy used winter tires, if they have any tread left, as long as the price is right.  So now, I keep the tires I'm replacing and BF sells them for $50 to $100.  Winter tires with 3 or 4 seasons on them are still better than All Seasons, especially if the previous owner put them on later and took them off earlier than the warmer weather was around.  Which is what I do.

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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1393 on: August 17, 2016, 02:01:19 PM »
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Now, we have a big reception for DS coming up Sunday and my MIL has offered to help, which I appreciate. My MIL is in charge of beverages, fruit and veggie trays. Every day, DH, DS and I have a 30 minute minimum conversation with MIL about her ideas for the trays. Oh, and should they be veggie trays or should she put a few carrot and celery pieces in little cups. Oh, and the cups will cost too much, so what should she do, etc.

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Raw veg doesn't have to be expensive.  You buy  some bags of baby carrots, a few celery bunches, a few broccoli bunches, a head or two of cauliflower, etc., clean, trim, cut to the right sizes, et voila.  You pay astronomically more if it's ready to serve.  As for putting it in little cups?  If that's about portion control, that's really cheap-minded.





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Re: Cheapskate stories
« Reply #1394 on: August 17, 2016, 02:07:07 PM »
I had gotten friendly with a girl who worked in my building and we decided to have a drink at her apartment one night. It was February and we were in a cold snap. The temp had been in the negatives for a week and still was. I walked into her apartment and immediately ask, horrified, if her heat was broken. She said that it was not and that she REFUSED to turn it up past 50 degrees F.

I kept my ski jacket on and then finally after an hour made an excuse and left.

Her dog the whole time was 'digging' a hole into the corner of the couch to make a bed and the poor creature shivered the whole time.  :'(