[quote author=SamiHami link=topic=126433.msg2934244#msg2934244
This might be cheapskate, but honestly I don't care. When we got engaged decades ago DH wanted me to help pick out my engagement ring (smart man...he figured since I'm the one who has to wear it forever I should have some input!). We looked around a lot of places, and of course being young and not exactly rich couldn't afford a lot, not that I was demanding anything. One store he took me to was a pawn shop, where I actually got a really nice diamond solitaire for an excellent price. It was twice the size of other stones in regular retail jewelry stores. I have had it appraised for insurance purposes and we got an excellent deal. I thought I'd feel weird about wearing a "used" ring, but you know what? It was new to me, and I've been wearing it for 27 years now.
I wouldn't consider this being cheap. Even if you're rolling on gold, sometimes you'll only find something you like as second-hand if it's out of style or rare.
I know that for personal belief/opinion I'll only consider a second-hand diamond/heirloom, or a man-made one. but since I don't really care for them I'd probably go for some other gem.