Pod to Surianne, DottyG and others. Your major tragedy does not make my minor tragedy any less hurtful TO ME. And in all honesty, it's hurtful for you to say so. You (general you) do not get to evaluate what people need a hug for. Maybe I do need a hug for a stubbed toe. Because it's the fifth thing to go wrong in one day and dangit, it was the last straw.
No one is forcing anyone to read anything here. If you don't like it, scroll on by or use the back button.
I don't think anyone is saying people aren't allowed to ask for hugs for anything. My back hurts right now and even though I recognize that it's a first-world problem, it still hurts and I'd certainly love a hug for it. If I were to post in the INAH forum, however, I'd very much choose to place it in the "small hugs!" thread.
It does upset me when there's a separate thread created for an event that ultimately I see as small in the grand scheme of things. To a degree, yes, it's about how much people are affected, and that may seem unfair to rank people like that. At the same time, no one can deny that there is a strong, palpable difference between "my back hurts" and "my husband died." They are profoundly different and deserve to be treated as such.
We have a lot of posters who lean on INAH when they have significantly traumatic events happen in their lives. I don't know if that's necessarily healthy or not but when they need posters we're here and we help however we can.
My worry is that when too many threads are focused on smaller things, then less people who want to help will post in that forum. That means there could be a deficiency in posters who want to give hugs, OR (as other posters on this thread have said) posters may feel less inclined to start their own topic because they feel their event is too massive, or traumatic, or something else. And that saddens me.
I'll also add this: when my personal event occurred (a school shooting), the "sympathy" thread that started quickly turned into a political furor, with some people claiming that guns were the cause, and others saying they don't want to send their children to that school. How in the world does that help the situation at all??? That's also why I worry about the trivialization of the forum.