I agree, where is this hostility coming from? And why are people misrepresenting my original post? Is it a reading comprehension issue or just simply an error due to quickly skimming the post?
No, I think we're smart enough to figure out how to read a post. We simply disagree with you that there's a problem in posting smaller issues to I Need A Hug, that's all.
But that's not accurate. I'm not trying to bicker with you, merely point out two things...
1) "We" doesn't represent all of us on this thread. There are those, myself included, that do feel the "small hugs" thread should be utilized more. Like the OP I have also grown to have a greater appreciation of that thread.
2) Multiple posters have explained the problems they have with "skipping over" a post. The OP included that in the OP and is subsequently confused why people are suggesting the very thing she noted that she didn't like to do.
As Cass and others have pointed out there seems to be a surprising amount of hostility. I'm wondering if the hostility is coming out of a self-defensive mechanism, so I'd like to clarify something - I have no intention of preventing anyone from asking for hugs. Ever. At all. Please if you want hugs, ask. No one is saying there is something WRONG with asking for hugs. Those of us asking for more utilization of the "small hugs" folder are asking _just that_. It isn't a "lesser" folder, and you still get hugs. Why does there seem to be such anger about that request? Do you somehow get "better" hugs if you have your own thread?
*Edited to remove a possibly inflammatory sentence.
Huh, I didn't see any hostility in my posts. But to answer your last question, I've actually never posted a thread in hugs. I just like having the opportunity to give support to posters who may be losing pets or dealing with similar issues that I feel solidarity towards.
If it's posted in its own thread, I can scan the title and see the reason someone is asking for hugs. Divorce or husband cheating? I have no experience with that; it's not something I'm comfortable addressing. Pet or grandparent death? Job loss? Those are more up my alley. Because they have their own thread with their own title, I can jump right in.
I also feel like posting in something called "small hugs" really diminishes the issue. When my first dog died (long before ehell existed), I was not looking for "small" hugs. It wasn't a small issue to me. It was huge, and I was devastated. Posting in a thread labelled "small" would have felt like a betrayal of my own emotions. While it may be just an animal to other posters, and thus less worthy, she was a huge part of my life.
I'm also confused, I guess, as to the purpose of this thread. What is the goal? If it's not to shame posters out creating new threads in the Hugs folder, what is it? How is this thread going to accomplish anything other than making the "lesser" hugs posters feel badly about their posts?
It really feels like kicking people while they're down, to me.