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Author Topic: When it isn't really a surprise. UPDATES #23, #42, #87  (Read 29924 times)

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ladyknight1

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Re: When it isn't really a surprise. UPDATES #23, #42, #87
« Reply #135 on: April 04, 2013, 07:08:06 PM »
Coley, I have read all of your posts in this thread and think this is a bizarre situation. I hope you are able to have a decent relationship with your new SIL.
ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."
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Re: When it isn't really a surprise. UPDATES #23, #42, #87
« Reply #136 on: April 04, 2013, 07:26:46 PM »
That is my hope too Coley, that you can find some way to relate to SIL and bro in a healthy way.

If you decide to opt out of the family dysfunctional dance, relapsing (getting emotionally caught up) is part of recovery (reacting in an assertive way).  Also remember, it is easy for family to push your buttons because they are the ones who installed them.  Be aware of the game playing and avoid getting involved.  It gets easier with practice.