I'm wondering if this suggestion seems as entitled from the outside as it does to me.
My friend/coworker Meredith and I are going to a concert together in about a month. We both live in different cities, cities that aren't close to our work place, the city the concert is in, or each other. Say we're both about 25+ miles from our work in different directions, but I'm slightly closer to City...what I'm trying to say is that it isn't exactly a big deal to drive into City for either of us, but that we're not located so that one of us could pick up the other without going 100% out of the way.
The concert is on a non-work day, so we can't leave from work together to the concert- not that it would be the best solution anyway, because after driving to the city from work, back to work after the show, then both of us back home. I've never had a problem going into City, there are plenty of both non-toll highways and back ways to get there for me, and as well as from Meredith's area- it's easy enough to get to and navigate, but admittedly different than the suburbs to drive in, if you're not used to it.
All of this to say- I really think the easiest way to go is for us to meet at the venue, driving separately. It takes me about 20-25 minutes to get there from my house, it might take Meredith 30-35. I thought we can meet there, have a good time, and go our own ways afterwards, simple enough.
Except Meredith doesn't want to drive in or to the city. She is able to, knows where the venue is and has been before, etc., just doesn't want to. So her plan was for me to drive to her house after work Friday, go to some fundraiser she is selling pasties at that night ("You can be my helper!"), stay the night, go on errands with her Saturday ("I have a team meeting in the morning...but you can come with me to that!"), I drive us to the concert and back, and then I assume I'd drive back to my house after dropping her at hers', but if I mentioned how late it would be by then she'd probably try to get me to stay again- we didn't discuss that far.
This is where I'm wondering if I'm biased in thinking "are you kidding me?!?" From my point of view, she wants me to sacrifice most of my weekend, go on errands with her, and do way more driving that necessary, just so that she can avoid driving herself into the city. I tried to see it from another point of view where maybe she legitimately thinks she's offering me a fun weekend agenda, but it just...doesn't fit my ideal of what I'd like to do. Then again, I'm biased- this doesn't seem like a small sacrifice to me, combined with how I am never really comfortable staying overnight at other people's houses.
So how does this suggestion seem from the outside? A rude suggestion to commander most of my weekend in order to avoid a half an hour drive, or a sweet offer for an overnight stay?
(FWIW, I haven't accepted these plans nor fully rejected them yet, when this came up the concert was even more in the future and I said I didn't want to plan that far ahead)