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Dr. F.

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How Not to Say the Wrong Thing
« on: April 08, 2013, 01:41:43 PM »,0,2074046.story

I just read this and think the author's on to something here, but I was curious as to what others think.



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Re: How Not to Say the Wrong Thing
« Reply #1 on: April 08, 2013, 02:14:52 PM »
We've discussed this sort of thing before on this site and it really comes down to personality. I think that the advice in the column will be appropriate for some people, and inappropriate for others. This part in particular:

So say, "I'm sorry" or "This must really be hard for you" or "Can I bring you a pot roast?" Don't say, "You should hear what happened to me" or "Here's what I would do if I were you."

Different people receive comfort in different ways. When I'm needing comfort I don't want to hear, "This must be so hard for you" or similar phrases. They are not helpful at all.

ETA that I do agree that you should never make someone else's illness/tragedy about yourself. In that the article was spot on. 
« Last Edit: April 08, 2013, 02:20:39 PM by Judah »
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