BG:: My senior year in college I became friends with 3 girls. After college we got pretty close, but then I REALLY got to know them and realized they were toxic people. For many reasons and after one particularly cruel incident I made the decision to remove these 3 girls from my life. I did the 'fade out' and it worked. I have not seen or spoken to any of them in 2.5 years. The worst of these 3 girls is "Connie".
Connie travels for work and will often 'live' in various locations for about 3 months for work then transfer to a new location. For the first time she is transfered temporarily to the city I live in. When she got her assignment she emailed me 3 times that she would be in my city for a few months, we should hang out, would love to see me, etc. I did not respond to her emails.
Normally Connie lives 3.5 hours from me and has never come to the city I live in so outside of this trip I don't worry about her being in the area. :: END BG
When I moved to the city I now live in I reconnected with another college friend "Kara". Kara knew of Connie but not well. Me and Kara have become very close. I've never discussed the Connie situation or cutting those 3 girls from my life with Kara. It's just never come up.
Kara's birthday is coming up and she is having a birthday at a local bar, about 6 people total.
Connie facebook messaged Kara, told her how she's in town for a few months and wanted the "3 of us" (Me, Kara, Connie) to hang out, this is after I ignored her emails. Kara, not knowing the situation, invited Connie to her birthday party. So now I will have to see Connie.
At the party I will be fine slapping a smile on my face and dealing with Connie. I can "bean-dip" like a champion and I am not worried about interacting with Connie. However, after this party, I have ZERO interest in ever seeing Connie again.
Should I tell Kara about my past with Connie? About the "incident" that made me end contact with her? (The incident was BAD.)
I would NEVER ask Kara to stop hanging out with Connie if they end up hitting it off and become friends but I also don't want Kara thinking the 3 of us are going to be buddies while Connie lives here.
The party is Saturday and I'm not sure how to procede between now and then.