A bit of background.
My wife and I bought the house we are now living a little over a year a half a go. We love the house, it has everything we were looking for, large enough to have family or friends stay over, a beautiful backyard, large pool, it is our dream house.
We have one pet, a Calico cat who is queen of the house. She is thirteen years old and although she can be a little demanding at times, she is perfect for us. both my wife and I have owned dogs in the past, and we have no problems with dogs, so long as they are not ours. We know the time and energy it takes to own a dog, and we are not at all interested in putting forth that effort. however, it has also come to the point, where we do not want dogs at our house.
This is for a few reasons.
First off, My wife's daughter stayed with us for close to nine months, she and her daughter both had a dog. I liked the dogs when they were at her house, I learned to really dislike them when they were at ours. The running around, barking, not being housebroken, and breaking things quickly had me not liking dogs, especially at my house.
then last Christmas, my wife's grandson shows up at our house (we knew he was coming) with his little rat terrier, but don't worry..... "He's housebroken" NOT!!!!
Plus, our cat does not like having other pets around the house, especially dogs. When the two dogs were in the house, she would end up taking refuge in the laundry room while the dogs were in the living room.
So we have finally got our house back, the dogs are gone, the carpets have been cleaned and we are very glad to be dog free.
So now I have to develop a polite spine. My wife's son lives about three hours from us. He has a dog that actually used to belong to my wife's granddaughter(the one that was living us for a while) She had to get rid of the dog because she (the dog) was too rambunctious and liked to chew on things, including the siding of the house. We have been to his house, and although it looks like the dog no longer chews on things, she still likes to run around, and will sit outside and bark incessantly if she feels she is being ignored.
My wife's son is planning on coming to visit in a few weeks, and he asked my wife if we would mind if he brought the dog. She said she would have to check with me, and my reaction was not no but H*ll NO! She told him I was less than thrilled with the idea. she really should have left it at that, but she told him I had been fed up with dog crap all in my back yard, with barking dogs that can't be left alone, and with the damage a dog can do to the house.
he told her not to worry, he would make sure all messes the dog makes will get picked up, he will not bring the dog in the house, and if she does break anything he will not leave us hanging but will make sure to pay for any repairs, or help to repair it himself. In other words, he had decided he is going to bring the dog anyway.
I told my wife I think this is extremely rude, after being told I did not want the dog at the house to go ahead and bring her anyway. I don't want to create a scene, I know my wife wants to see her son, and his daughter, I'm not going to turn him away at the door, and I've had a pretty good relationship with him and I don't want to destroy that.
I'm not sure if there is anything I can say at this point expect maybe some PA remarks when he gets here. I'm not sure how I want the dog to act. if she does bark incessantly, or break one of my sprinkler heads (something one of the other dogs did) it will be easy for me to tell him don't ever bring the dog back (by the way, he's only bringing her because he does not want to spend the money to kennel her for the weekend.) If she behaves, he'll be able to say "see that wasn't so bad" except that even if she behaves, I don't want dogs at my house!!!!!
I know my wife doesn't want the dog here either, but at this point, if I'm going to keep the dog out of our house and backyard, I'm going to have to be the bad guy.